Last month I finished reading the book Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. I don’t think it was until I saw the first movie trailer that I even found out about the book. I love Julia Roberts and thought the trailer looked fabulous. I’m not really sure why I decided to read the book, but I’m guessing it was entirely to do with wanting to see the movie and being too impatient to wait. It only took me a third of the book to decide I no longer wanted to see the movie. Already I was afraid by watching the movie, my memory of the book would be tainted or destroyed. It was the kind of book that I underlined many passages in throughout.
After completing the book I was on an Elizabeth Gilbert bender and had to read and watch everything that I could about her. One interview I read described the book Eat, Pray, Love as a universal book. While I would agree that it was a “Universally acclaimed book” I wouldn’t say that it was universal in general. I don’t know many people that live a jet set lifestyle comparable to Elizabeth’s, and I know I don’t have the fortune to allow for a year off of work. And while I usually am drawn to books where I relate to the main character, I can’t say that is where my attraction to this book lied. In fact, I can’t really relate to her much at all. She’s a woman who has traveled the world with ease, a woman who has been married, divorced, and describes herself as a latcher. Instead my interest lies in the desire to grow, expand my experiences, get over my hang-ups and become a better person.
On page 29 I underlined a sentence that said “the philosopher Rumi once advised his students to write down the three things they most wanted in life.” Immediately it made me put down the book and think about what three things I wanted in life. I grabbed my sketchbook and drew out “Adventure, Create, Self-Love“.
Adventure came immediately. I thought of this pin, (above) from laurelhill on etsy, that I bought for my friend Nikki. As much as I loved it and wanted to keep it for myself, I knew that I had to give it to her because it was a perfect mantra for what we both want out of life. Next, for my second word Create. As long as I can remember I’ve had the strong drive to create, life is empty without that. Lastly, I thought Love, but more specific to me, I think that I struggle with loving myself, and not being mean and negative to myself. I truly believe that I could accomplish anything I set my heart upon, if only I’d allow or push myself to do them. Also, there is the saying “You can’t really love someone else, until you’ve learned to love yourself” and so for the last thing I want most from life, I chose Self Love.
Since then, I have often found myself repeating the new mantra in my head, in the moments after prayer and before sleep.
So, now I ask you. What are the three things you want most from life?